‘Are we ready for a baby?’ It’s a question pondered by couples, world-wide. Mentally, Mister C and I have been ready for a long time. Our relationship is stable. Our kiddie skills are honed—thank you nieces and nephews. But despite the obvious concerns being ruled out, how do you ever know if you are truly ready for kids?
People say there is never a perfect time. And for some, perhaps most, this is true. Maybe it’s a dream career that is stopping you. Maybe it’s the wish to save for a house. Maybe you always wanted to travel before settling down for good.
But when the clock starts ticking, that’s when it gets real.
Ten year old me thought that 25 was the perfect age to have kids. And looking back, how smart that little girl was. I remember the moment clearly. I was in the playground with some of my friends—a bunch of innocent ten year olds who’d never even held a boy’s hand. We were discussing the future. That’s when we began making important decisions for our adult selves.
On my 24th birthday, I remembered this innocent conversation. Here I was, adult me, edging ever closer to my ideal baby making age. I’d just began a relationship with Mister C. I suspected that he might one day become the father of my children, but at the time, we were nowhere near ready for kids.
Now, at 30, we finally feel as though we are ready. And don’t get me wrong: many good things come with starting our family at 30. We are more settled in a loving relationship. We have done our travelling. We have done the partying. That part’s all great.
The bad part is: the older we get, the less fertile we get.
But I’m going to try not to worry about any future fertility issues. Right now, I’m going to try to focus on the positives. And if we have any problems down the track… we’ll cross the bridge when the time comes.