There are so many negative things thrown out there about pregnancy and early parenthood. You WILL get terrible morning sickness. You WILL suffer through late pregnancy in summer. You WILL be severely sleep deprived for the first few months of bubs life. You WILL struggle to find time for a shower. Yes, I can see how all of these things might happen. But guess what? They didn’t happen to me. You all know the story of my pregnancy and how Baby C came into this world. Now I feel it’s really important to share the next part of my story, because I believe a positive attitude can do wonders in the world of baby making. At least, it did for me. I won’t say that things have been super smooth sailing for the first 9 weeks of baby C’s life. At four weeks I was hospitalised with mastitis, yuck. Yes, the boobys said no, and took me down. As for the rest, compared to what I was expecting, it’s been a dream. Let me explain, in list format.
- The sleep deprivation:
Baby C does not sleep through the night. Obviously, he can’t just yet: he needs to eat. So, I wake at least twice to feed him. I am awake for up to an hour at each night feed and yet, during the day, I don’t feel sleep deprived. Why? Baby C goes straight back to sleep after night time booby. And so does Mummy. Most times, Baby C allows me a little sleep in too, so this is how I catch up on missed sleep. No need for me to sleep during the day.
- The shower:
This one is my favourite. Pre baby, I was so scared that I would have a screaming baby, sitting outside of the shower, on his rocker, breaking his little heart. Nope! Baby C happily lies in his little bassinet for at least five minutes while Mummy enjoys, and I mean really enjoys, a hot shower. Every day. Sometimes, I choose to have a bath during one of his nap times. I figure it’s important to allow myself those little me time moments. Because, yes, there are far less of them when Baby C is awake.
- The inconsolable crying:
Baby C doesn’t do crying. He does whinge when something is up, you know, like if he is tired or hungry. Of course, he has his moments, like when he is super hungry and we are in the car. Boy. He does do crying then. But for the most part, he is just a pretty chilled baby.This was a huge shock to me. Before I became Mummy Miss Cookas, I just figured there would be daily, regular intervals of crying, and unsettledness during the new born period. No. Happy babies do exist.
So, there you have it. Pregnancy and early baby-ness can be blissful, despite all the rumours to the contrary. Like anything new in life, there are adjustments to be made. I can’t lie about that. Life has changed for us. But me and Mr C have just gone with the flow, and the flow has flowed pretty good. So far, anyway. And please don’t be mistaken. I am not writing this post in an effort to brag about how wonderful everything is for me, and poo poo to all the others out there who don’t have the smooth ride that Mr C and I are currently experiencing. I just really feel like we focus far too much on the negative aspects of life sometimes. And although I do believe that it is important to brace yourself for the worst, I also think it is important to look forward to what could be a completely beautiful and peaceful ride.
All people are different, and so, all babies are different. If baby one was a nightmare, baby two might be a dream. Or vice versa, of course. Like me, if this is your first baby, all I can say is: prepare as much as you can. Do your baby research and practice with real life babies as much as you can. But at the end of the day, don’t forget to trust your instincts when it comes to your baby. You WILL learn what your baby needs. You WILL adjust to the life changes that come with being a new parent—even if it does take a while.
I love that I can look to my next baby experience with an open mind. It might be all smooth sailing again, or I might have a terrible time of it (please God, no!). But it is good to know that the positives do exist. And it’s extra good to embrace them when they happen. After all, it feels nice to be a booby half full kinda girl.